Sundays with Stassi: I never imagined I could do ACTING…part 2

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The past 2 months have been an emotional journey that culminated in the past 2 weekends of becoming Dilys. Dilys is a 35 year old mother of 3 and wife of a wandering lawyer. She’s heard about his indiscretions, but has focused on keeping home and her children in place. However, there are various events that take place during their 10th Anniversary celebration night out that forces her to confront what she’s been avoiding.

Now a little about me…I’m a 32 year old single woman, never married, with no children and seemingly no commonality with Dilys. However, I’m the youngest of my mom’s 3 children and that’s where the comparisons get interesting. My mom birthed me when she was 28 years old and was divorced by the time I was old enough to go to school. As a Christian adult believing in the marriage covenant…

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Sundays with Stassi: I never imagined I could do… ACTING – part 1

I never imagined I could do…ACTING!!!
I have never been afraid of performing in front of people since I grew up dancing, cheerleading & playing softball. I have even given speeches before…as Valedictorian of my High School class, President of the Honor Society, and various academic presentations throughout the years. In fact, class lecturing is really just another performance in front of my students. However with all of these experiences, I’m either not talking or have notes available to assist me, but theater is different! I actually have to memorize everything I have to say and portray the correct nonverbal gestures like facial expressions and body movement on cue.
A few months ago I was minding my business walking to the parking lot to go home from work. This guy walks out of a door to the campus theater, which I pass by everyday, and…

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Sundays with Stassi: A Colorful Growth-Happy 18th Zakia

Dear Zakia,
The whimsical colorful nature of this picture reminds me of the growth that I have seen in you, my oldest niece. You have truly become your own person over these 18 years of your existence. Like flowers burst with color, I have seen you blossom into a beautiful young lady full of life and fun. The rolling hills symbolize those terrible teen mood swings & major attitude problems that we have had to endure on this journey of maturity, but I’m soooo happy that we are beyond those times. The hills beyond the horizon represent the ups and downs of adulthood that you will surely face through this life’s journey, but I hope during those times you will always remember God’s Words hidden in your heart.
During these last few years, you have been my rock, my G, my Girl! You have shown up when I’ve least expected…

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Sundays with Stassi: The Heavens opened up


     She was frustrated because she was quickly approaching her mid 30s and not quite where she thought she would be professionally or personally. She had made great progress in her career although she was still working hard to prove herself as an African American female in STEM. Her relatively nonexistent progress in her personal life was a daily reminder of what felt like failure in any progress towards starting a family.
     So, one day she sat all alone contemplating life. Where does she go from here? How does she proceed in her career? What does a dating life look like for her? Where does she fit in, in her new community? Will she make new friends? Will she finally meet that someone special?
     Then suddenly she looked up just as water seemed to begin to fall from the sky. She gasped at the thought of the Heavens opening…

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Sundays with Stassi: A Different Kinda Love Letter…

ToMy Love,
On this day, theeve of your 4th birth day, we celebrate 16 sweet years of your presence on earth. I remember the day you were born like it was yesterday…It was Tuesday, February 29, 2000 and I was a junior in high school. School was over for the day. I’m not sure if there was cheerleading practice, but I remember being at home that afternoon. Your mom had a doctor’s appointment and apparently her and one of our aunt’s decided to walk around the mall and she started having contractions. Well baby girl, your mother is hard headed, so what did she do?…come all the way back home while in labor, only for us to have to turn around and drive her all the way back up to the hospital! I remember my mom getting “the phone call” and we dropped everything we were doing to make that…

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Sundays with Stassi: Church FAMILY

I took my seat in the middle of the 3rd pew in the center aisle as usual this Sunday morning. It had been 2 weeks since my last time in church, but I made them aware of my impending disappearances before I left island. I saw the Pastor’s wife when she took her position in front and when she turned and spotted me in my usual spot. She smiled and said, “Well, hello stranger! Welcome back to St. Thomas!” Then she told me that the pastor had asked where I was. He acknowledged that he had not seen me and wanted to speak with me about something…

This simple acknowledgement of my absence and delight in my presence is something that has been a long time coming. My heart rejoices to know that although I’m far away from my family and friends, God has led me to a church filled…

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#wednesdayworkouts = progress 

Hi folks!

My move to the islands came with some changes in my fitness routines. I was training with Black Girls Run! for a few years, which led to me completing a list of 5Ks, 10Ks, & half marathons. Our group would do a weekly hill route, but that was NO preparation for the “hills” that I’ve faced on island! I have been hard on myself since I moved because my pace is a lot slower than it used to be and I was aiming for a specific half marathon time goal. However, I am a witness to how things can change with a little consistency and persistence…they pay off! 
There’s an uphill route that I travel home from work everyday. One day while my car was struggling to get up the hill, I decided that it would be a great challenge to start running that route. I started off consistently last fall, but fell off as the daylight hours decreased. So, the New Year brought about thoughts of resolutions and I decided to start that challenge again.
I’m hear to tell you:

Progress = persistence + hard work

Keep pushing forward,

Stassi Nicole

Sundays with Stassi: My Valentine…

Dear Valentine,
The anticipation of spending time with you is hard to take at times. When I’m at work, all I do is think of you and how my heart skips a beat when my eyes fall upon your beauty. Unfortunately, we are always apart from each other. I only see you on special occasions because you are just so bad for me…but you’re so good. Your sweet smell catches me off guard every time I catch a whiff, making it so hard for me to resist you.

You are love. You bring out the best in me. When we’re together, I am filled with such joy and happiness that I feel like a whole new person. All stress just melts away as I get lost in your world. Even afterwards you push me to be a better person because you make me exercise more. The more we are together…

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