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Sundays with Stassi: Brokenness

Lately I’ve been reflecting a lot on the idea of brokenness. When you can literally feel yourself in pieces. That moment when you’ve already hit the floor and your entire being is shattered…Have you ever felt like that?

To be broken, by definition, is not only to be fragmented or torn, but also incomplete or in a state of disarray or disordered. Typically something that (someone who) is broken is not in working order or does not functioning properly. But when I saw this image, it reminded me of God’s strength and more importantly that when we are at our wit’s in or complete weakness also known as “brokenness” that’s when God is made strong. Just like an egg, when we are broken we can/will be used.

In the midst of my brokenness is when my passion, vision, mission, and ministry are renewed. These are usually times when I have…

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Sundays with Stassi: Forbidden Love – The Preacher Man part 1

The Forbidden Love series continued…

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I was in a state of spiritual insecurity, confusion, and loneliness. I felt like God had dropped me in the middle of the wilderness and left me there to “fend for myself.” So I made a decision to try. To try to find a church home, a family, a place to call my own. A place where I could reconnect spiritually, to meet new people in this new place that I was forced to call home, and to serve in ministry. So I found a place, attended it, and even joined. I knew I couldn’t just be a pew member, so I immediately signed up for the youth ministry. After all, that’s where I always felt the most comfort. My passion was ministering, encouraging, and mentoring the young people, especially teenage girls. In my previous youth ministry was where my teaching skills were improved and where my spirit man on…

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Sundays with Stassi: Forbidden LOVE – The Single Guy

Forbidden Love…

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He was a beautiful specimen. Single, no children, professional, and in that perfect age range. He lived on his own, so he was great at “keeping house” and even making some pretty tasty meals. More importantly, he loved the Lord and was growing in his relationship with Him. He cared for me. I could tell. We started spending too much time together, so THE TALK was imminent… “I’m not ready for a relationship. I’m not sure what I want.” That’s what he said, but his actions screamed, “I want you by my side. Don’t leave me. Give me a chance.” He had been hurt before. It was hard for him to trust again. His heart was under lock and key. I tried time and time again, but I couldn’t break through the walls. I gave up. I left.

According to the urban dictionary forbidden love is when you love someone…

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Sundays with Stassi: Sexy Pharmaceuticals

My inner Science nerd has been wanting to come out & play with the Sunday posts, so this week I let it…

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http://www.fda.gov/NewsEvents/Newsroom/PressAnnouncements/ucm458734.htm

GM folks! By now I am sure you have heard of the little blue pill for men. This pill, commonly known as Viagra, pops up on the tv in several commercials as a remedy for men who want to “do it,” but are physically unable to due to some softness. This pill was approved for use over 17 years ago and several additional research studies have focused on men’s sexual health, leaving us women behind. Of course, traditionally women have not been able to openly express any sort of sexual desires despite our overuse as sex symbols in mainstream media. So this perfect storm of problems has led to what many people are deeming a victory for women’s sexual health. However, I have my reserves…

Have y’all seen this new “Female Viagra” called Addyi? Well, third time’s the charm they say! It’s a failed antidepressant that was rejected 2…

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Sundays with Stassi: Steps 2 Success

How can you be successful in life? Check out this list!

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This week during the new student medallion ceremony, the president gave a David Letterman Top Ten list theme address titled: The 10 Keys to Academic Success. As I listened to the list, it became apparent that it applies to life in general and not just to college success.

Here’s my take on his list:
1. Never have a closed mind — Learning is a life long process. If you’re not learning, then you’re not growing.
2. Study like your life depended on it — or work like your life depends on it, because usually it does, especially if you’re the breadwinner for yourself or family.
3. View the next few years as a license to explore the world, and not a prison center — this should definitely apply to everyday life! TRAVEL!! Experiencing different places, cultures, people teach you more about yourself. If you are going to work everyday, find…

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Dreams of Consciousness

I think this was my very first post…

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*based on Erykah Badu’s Love Of My Life (An Ode To Hip Hop)

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I Found

The Love of my life
You are my friend.
The Love of my life,
But are you a dude I can depend
On?
The Love of my life,
But how can there be a happily ever after if right now I’m not happy
Ever
Even after
Walks in the park,
Movies, drinks and Hanging out past dark.
Emotional rollercoaster going up and down
Mental merry-go-round spinning ’round ‘n ’round
But I found
The Love of my life
You are my friend.
The Love of my life
Waiting
Until you are transformed into a dude I can depend
On
The Love of my life,
But there will be a happily ever after
As soon as you become happy
With who you are for-ever
After
He renews the Spirit in you.
The Love of my life.

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Sundays with Stassi: Family Matters

Why does your family matter to you?

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No, not the tv show, but rather my thoughts on family…

Recently, my family went on another of our family vacations. Over the years we’ve done quite a few vacations together, joining my mom’s siblings and their families. It’s rare that all 8 of them and families are together and even this time it was only 7 of them. The cruise departure day was my birthday and I was excited to celebrate with my cousins. After some confusion we all were finally onboard and dinner time neared. I arrived to dinner at our scheduled 6PM time and just sat there. It was a table for 12 but no one else showed up. I was angry and very disappointed and then 40 minutes later my big sis and oldest niece showed up and sat with me so I wouldn’t eat alone. I didn’t call but they just kind of appeared out…

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Sundays with Stassi: Single. Satisfied.

Are you Single? Are you satisfied?

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As a single woman in the beginning of my 30s, I often hear questions related to my dating life…or lack there of…Every time I see grandma she makes sure she slides in some comment about me meeting a nice young man regardless of the conversation. I wonder if guys my age have to endure these same conversations…

Usually I want to scream out loud: YES, I AM STILL SINGLE! NO, I DON’T NEED A MAN. YES, I DESIRE TO BE MARRIED ONE DAY HOWEVER I AM OK IN MY CURRENT SITUATION. Unfortunately, I know that is not proper, lady-like behavior so I just endure those conversations like a G with a smile on my face. Silently, I amuse myself because the main people who have those talks with me are…single…so usually while he/she…

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Sundays with Stassi: Parting is Such Sweet Sorrow

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I vividly remember that hot summer day, 10 years ago, Aug 2005. My family had a going away gathering for me because I was headed to Illinois for graduate school. At that point I had gone to college about 3.5hrs away from home but I could easily drive home or even realistically make a turn around trip if I needed to make one. However that lurking move to graduate school would be the farthest I had lived from home. I was not looking forward to that 7 hour drive through the Tennessee mountains, but was ready for a new adventure.

I look back now and wonder why that move was such a big deal… I think it was the reality that I wasn’t just going to be gone for 5yrs like the sign said but rather never really come back home because I never really fit there anyway. At the…

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Thankful Thursdays – Heeeey Momma

I’m thankful that God entrusted me to my mommy, a loving, caring, kind, praising, strong black woman. I didn’t know it at the time but she taught me so many lessons that have impacted my life without even knowing it… simply because it was the right thing to do. I’m thankful that she raised me to develop my own relationship with my dad and his family without inserting any feelings of anger or bitterness into my mind. I’m thankful that despite a marriage that simply didn’t work, she always had (still has) an open door for the extra kids…I mean Jasmine & Neko practically lived with us on the weekends when I was growing up and even now Shaniya is always welcomed for sleepovers. This open door instilled in me a sense of home sharing & a reminder that God blesses us in different ways to BE a Blessing.

For the last 2 yrs she has watched and listened to my despair and frustration at work and has constantly told me that I could come Home at any time. So this year I decided to step out on Faith, pack my stuff & made arrangements to move home. I’m thankful that her house is not just a Home, but Shelter in the time of need. Especially this summer! My brother and his family as well as myself all moved back home this summer. It was a little weird to be in my childhood room with all of my adult belongings, but I made it work…

Now, as I sign a new lease, I can’t help but to reflect on my other homes. From the time I got my own apartment in Albany, GA, it was a place of comfort for my friends. I think back to my Carbondale days and how my apt was a refuge for my HS girls when they wanted to get away from home and even in Little Rock my college girls took refuge when they needed to escape campus. As I embark upon this new journey, I thank God for blessing me with an affordable & comfortable place to call my own (including some pretty darn good neighbors) so that I can continue to be a blessing for those that He brings into my life.

New Island Girl,

Stassi Nicole